Ten Commandments: Wk 6

Don’t Hurt Anyone!

Fighting with Your Brother Makes You Sad!

Bible:  Deuteronomy 5:17, Rom 13:10

Lesson Day Six:  Don’t Hurt Anyone.  The Sixth Commandment says that you are not to kill another person (Exodus 20:13).  In Matthew 5 Jesus said, “21 “You have heard what was said to people who lived long ago. They were told, ‘Do not commit murder.—(Exodus 20:13) Anyone who murders will be judged for it.’ 22 But here is what I tell you. Do not be angry with your brother. Anyone who is angry with his brother will be judged.”  It is easier to sin when you are angry.  Has anyone here ever been so angry they could eat nails?  –That is a funny expression for a very serious condition.  When you are angry, it is hard to be wise; all you want to do is to hurt someone.  So that is why Jesus went back to the cause of the killing.  So can you just decide not to get angry?  –No.  Jesus can help us think like He does and that can make most of the anger go away, but in time someone will do something to you.  It will make your face get red and your body get hot and you will want to hurt them too.  What do you do with that anger?

1.  Pray!  Ask God to give you wisdom about what is really happening.  (Often there is something going on that you can’t see.  God knows all things.)  Judgement is the Lord’s, as much as it is in your power, making-up is yours.

2.  Cool down.  Have a time of separation.  Do not go to that person until you cool down.  Judgement is the Lord’s; you don’t have to hurt anyone.

3.  Ask God to forgive you.

4.  Ask God for the next step.  Ask for forgiveness from the person.

-If this person keeps hurting you: “Stay away from that person.” (Healthy boundaries.)

-If you did something that made them feel hurt, say to that person, “I’m sorry.  Please forgive me.” (A gentle answer turns away wrath [wrath is anger].)  This is true whether or not you meant to hurt them.

5.  Shake Hands.

-If they forgive you, you may start to build a relationship again (with caution).

-If they don’t, it is for them to forgive.  You did your part.  Be nice to them and feel free.  You will not be able to have a close friendship with someone that can’t forgive.

6.  Thank God for the help.

Why do we forgive? –Because Jesus first forgave us.  Forgiveness is a gentle answer, and a gentle answer turns away wrath.  Forgiveness is not hurting anyone.

Important Point:  Don’t hurt anyone and forgiveness is a gentle answer, and a gentle answer turns away wrath.

Activity Day six:  Don’t hurt anyone.

Before class print out a “Steps to Healing” paper for each person in class.


1.  Separate the class into pairs

2.  Give one person in each group a “hitting implement,”  i.e., a pillow, stuffed animal, rolled-up pieces of newspaper.

3.  Give both of them the “Steps to Healing”.  -Ask who do you think will need to forgive. –Definitely the hitter, but did the person being hit do something to make them want to hit?  Both may have to ask for forgiveness.

4.  “Hitting Instructions”:

a) The person with the “soft hitting implement” is to lightly hit the other person on the head with the soft implement.

b) The other person uses the “Steps to Healing”.

  1. Pray to God and ask what is going on here.
  2. Separate and cool down (step back).
  3. Pray and ask God to forgive you of anything you did wrong.
  4. Ask for forgiveness from the person you hurt.
  5. Shake hands.
  6. Thank God.

c) Switch sides.  The other one gets to bop the person on the head.

5.  Be sure no one is too zealous at hitting.  This isn’t to injure the person.

Materials:  pillows, stuffed animals, or rolled-up piece of paper.

Steps to Healing (Click to Download)

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